Why Your Plans Fall Apart
Your plans don't fall apart because you're broken. They fall apart because you're planning like you don't have ADHD. Pete and Nikki kick off a three-part planning series with a clear-eyed look at why every system you've tried has come up short, and why that is not a character flaw.
Later Life Diagnosis: The Relief, The Regret, & The Reality with Linda Roggli
For a lot of women, perimenopause isn't just hot flashes. It's the moment the ADHD they've been quietly managing for decades suddenly isn't manageable anymore. Linda Roggli joins Pete and Nikki to talk about why, and what you can actually do about it.
What Changes About Executive Function After 40 with Dr. Brandy Callahan
Your ADHD brain isn't necessarily getting worse as you age — but it is changing, and the science is finally starting to catch up. Dr. Brandy Callahan brings her research on executive function, allostatic burden, and dementia risk to help us understand what's actually happening, and what we can do about it.
Grieving the Version of Yourself That Could “Push Through” with Dr. Kathleen Nadeau
What happens when "pushing through" stops working — and the version of yourself you built around that ability starts to slip away? This week Dr. Kathleen Nadeau joins us to talk about the grief that doesn't always get named, and what's possible on the other side of it.
ADHD, Memory, and the Stories We Tell Ourselves with Daniella Karidi, Ph.D.
What if forgetting isn't a failure — it's just how your brain is designed to work? Dr. Daniella Karidi returns to open our new series on ADHD and aging with a reframe that makes everything else click into place.
"Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults" with Caroline Maguire
You've been calling them friends before they've earned it — and that's where the hurt comes from. Caroline Maguire is here to rewrite the whole friendship map.
When Masking Becomes a Relationship Strategy with Dr. Sharon Saline
You've been masking so long it doesn't feel like a choice anymore — it just feels like the day. Dr. Sharon Saline is back to help us untangle our masks and presentations.
The Relational Toll of ADHD Over Time with Dr. Dodge Rea
It's not the fights that wear a relationship down — it's the million quiet moments where you keep missing each other. Dr. Dodge Rea returns to explore why shame calcifies faster in ADHD relationships, and what it takes to stay both intact and in touch.
Repair Without Over-Explaining
Over-apologizing doesn't just wear you down — it can turn your guilt into someone else's emotional labor. This week, Nikki and Pete break down the difference between an apology and a repair, and share a framework for making things right without losing yourself in the process.
Why Being “Low-Maintenance” Is Costly
"You're so easy. You're low maintenance." It sounds like a compliment — but for ADHDers, it's often a signal that you've been hiding your needs so well that nobody knows you have them. Pete and Nikki unpack why striving to be low maintenance is one of the most costly masking strategies in the ADHD playbook.
Motivation Comes From Emotion, Not Discipline with James Ochoa
You've tried connecting tasks to meaning and designing your environment—but what happens when you're still stuck? James Ochoa helps us understand what's really happening beneath the surface when motivation strategies aren't enough.
Letting Go of the “This Year Will Be Different” Story
The “this year will be different” story is a setup—especially for ADHD—because it turns motivation into a short-lived sprint and makes the crash feel like a personal failure. Pete and Nikki talk about escaping the resolution trap by building self-compassion, realistic pacing, and a shame-free way to ask for help.
Emotional Regulation When You’re Already Depleted
When your emotional tank is empty, your ADHD brain doesn't need a five-step plan—it needs a reset. Join us as we explore why depletion makes emotions harder to manage and share sensory-based strategies that actually work when you can't regulate yet.
You’re Not Behind. You’re Exhausted.
Pete and Nikki kick off the new season by naming the thing nobody wants to put on a vision board: the post-holiday crash.
Quiz Show • Season 31 Finale
For our Season 31 finale, DiscordMom Melissa takes over hosting duties and puts us through a no-stakes quiz show filled with nostalgia, chaos, and confessions we absolutely can’t take back. It’s the most fun way possible to close out the season—and maybe the most honest we’ve ever been on-mic.
Find Your Own Wind: Fuel Your Motivation through Emotion
Motivation doesn’t start with logic — it starts with emotion, and ADHD brains need a different kind of spark to get moving. In this episode, Nikki and Pete explore how emotional planning can help you finally start the tasks you’ve been avoiding.
Aging, ADHD, and Letting Go with Jami Shapiro
ADHD doesn't disappear with age, but it often goes undiagnosed in older generations—showing up as clutter, chaos, and family frustration. Jami Shapiro helps us understand how to support neurodivergent brains through downsizing, retirement, and major life changes.
Acceptance, Avoidance, and the Tolerations Between Them
We’re tackling the sneaky little energy drains that pile up in every ADHD household — the tolerations we learn to live with. Pete and Nikki revisit an old favorite topic with new insights, exploring how to spot them, fix them, or finally let them go.
The Introvert’s Guide to Finding Your People with Ky Wescott
Can you be introverted and thrive in a world that won’t stop buzzing? The Vibe With Ky’s Kyrus Keenan Westcott joins us to talk about late ADHD diagnosis, healthy boundaries, and finding joy in your quiet power.
The Cycle of Accountability: Reclaiming Presence with Dr. Nachi Felt
Accountability doesn’t have to feel like punishment. Dr. Nachi Felt returns to share a new model for turning self-understanding into meaningful action—and it starts with a little compassion.